In another class that I am taking we did a discussion board on Internet Dating. I thought that I would continue my thoughts and get the thoughts from this class on this matter. It is of no importance for the other class, that discussion is done and over with it, as you will read, is a touchy subject for me.
I believe that there is both good and bad that can come out of meeting someone off of the internet. The person you are talking to is a complete stranger and there is no way to protect yourself because there can be no research on them done if you don’t know who they really are. I don’t know from experience if those dating websites like eHarmony really work but if the commercials are true I am happy for those couples. I do know about meeting someone online and it ending badly.
I met my EX-husband online at a communications website. I did not talk to him with the intention on dating him but after meeting in person it seemed to be love at first sight. After 6 months of bliss we were wed. From the day after our wedding he went coo coo for cocoa cocoa puffs. He was abusive, rude and openly cheated on me. This was a big deal because we were both in the military at the time and that is a MAJOR problem. So not only did I have a really bad home life but because of the obvious abuse showing on my face at work, my chief got involved. To save from the lengthy version he left for Iraq 4 months after our wedding and I divorced his ass as fast as I could. A lot of judgment was put on me for my actions from my family and friends but I stuck to my guns because I knew the real information.
At the same time as I was dealing with my ex my best friend had met a guy on myspace and got married right after I did. She moved into his house with him after talking to him online for 3 days which scared me to death. Amazingly they are still married and completely happy to this day. So, I know that it is possible.
Anything any of you would like to share or comment would be great…if not that is fine too. I said what I wanted to say so thanks for reading.
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Hi, Carmen. Good for you in getting out of an abusive relationship!
ReplyDeleteI knew a woman who met a man online, married him, and relocated so that they could live together (Connecticut to Arizona). The last I heard, they were very happy.
I lived with my husband 10 years before we got married. I think this was a good thing because if we had been married during the first year we lived together, I would have divorced him. I didn't really know how to share space with another person, and he grew up sharing space with three other siblings, so it took me awhile to understand I was dealing with boundary issues. It was good not to feel forced to stay together if it wasn't working, and eventually, we did figure things out.
Because I haven't dated anyone in 17 years, I have lost track of what dating is like, so I'm not much help in that area. :) Nancy